After being a part of my fair share of relationships, I have come to several conclusions! Truth is, you never truly know the extent of how much a person loves you. Unless you are spiritually connected to someone, you will only ever know what they tell you. Or perhaps through their actions we can see, feel and hear how much they love us. Luckily the way our souls are naturally meant to entwine with others; we have a chance to experience true love.

As a woman, I believed that I was doing everything right. I was independent and maintained an attractive outward image. I went to church, I had a good job, I cooked and cleaned. Although, I can’t say that I have always made the best choice when it came to romantic relationships; I still worked on myself constantly. I was spiritually grounded, honest and loyal. Loyal in the sense that I didn’t cheat, but disloyal by bad mouthing my mate if the relationship didn’t work out. I wanted everyone else to feel what I was feeling I suppose.

Now that I have matured into a God fearing, strong minded woman I can make better choices. I now know my worth and how important I am to this world. I recognize and realize who loved me for the moment, for a season or for a lifetime. I feel as though I have mastered the intentions and behaviors of most men that claim to be interested in me. I often failed to make the best choices; especially because I was blinded by the sex, slick talk, or purposeful ignorance(meaning that I ignored all the red flags, their faults and shortcomings for fear of being alone). The reality is that these so called men(boys) that I trusted with my heart, mind and body were absolutely NOT QUALIFIED to love me the way I deserved to be loved! As they say, actions speak louder than words! Let’s just say, I heard their actions loud and clear!

At this stage in my life I refuse to allow anyone to use or abuse me. I have worked hard on rebuilding my spiritual foundation. I am so much better now that there are no distractions blinding my vision. I may be single, but I am happy! I may sleep alone, but I am not lonely! I may not have a man, but I am not waiting up at night wondering where he is! I am content with my life, my mind, my body and my soul! I have done very well loving myself unconditionally. Any man that wants to be with me will need to show and prove their intentions and absolutely meet the qualifications to love me! A man would have to stimulate my mind before attempting to stimulate me physically. I want to learn about my man, learn with my man and learn from my man! I want to make sure that I am fully uplifting, exalting and inspiring my man.

Truth is we often make assumptions about our romantic relationships. We assume that how we feel is how our mate feels. We assume that love is a two way street. We assume that they value our love just as we value theirs. It is time that we stop assuming! The value you place on your love speaks volumes about state of your relationship! You are worthy to be loved especially because of the greatness that your love exudes! This beautiful gift of love that abides within you should be constantly nurtured, replenished and reciprocated. Your love portion is very necessary to the atmosphere. Some where out there is your perfectly, imperfect love mate waiting to love you unconditionally. In the meantime, make sure that you are loving yourself constantly and consistently!

“Prayer Suggestion”

All praises to the Most High God. Thank You for allowing us to see this day. Thank You for creating in us hearts with the ability to love ourselves and others unconditionally. Please continue to guide us and protect us when it comes to matters of the heart. Help us to love You first and to love ourselves second. Remind us of the value of our vessels. Help us to preserve our temples as we await the arrival of our true love. Create in us clean and renewed hearts. We proclaim these things in Your love and light. We give You all the praise and glory, Amen!